Most all family and friends now know that Nate and I have started training to become foster parents. This has been a possibility for us for many years. We have often brought up the subject and quickly dismissed it. As we have gotten older the dismissing didn’t come so quickly. I have always wanted a larger family and Nate has always been content with stopping at two. Then last Spring happened. Foster Care was everywhere. I just couldn’t stop thinking about fostering. I felt inundated with foster information and knew that there was something to it.
When we lost Nate’s parents a little over a year ago things changed so much for our family. I won’t go into everything now but, I knew that it was too soon to talk to Nate about my budding foster feelings. So I prayed. (If you don’t know the story of Baeya’s adoption this feels very familiar.) I prayed for months for clarification from Jesus if this was truly from him or my own wants. I finally got up the nerve to tell Nate how I was feeling when he was on his work trip to Germany. Notice that I wait until he is out of the country to get up my nerve. Don’t get me wrong I had thrown out the foster words a few times throughout the summer to gage his reactions, but I am pretty sure he was a bit stunned to get the phone call. His response maybe stunned me more though. He said, “Ok we will talk about it when we get home.”
Now let me just side note this a bit with; Nate’s aversion to change is REAL, and that is putting it mildly. This was HUGE. I like to put it like this, when I get an idea that will effect my family I have to wrap a rope around Nate’s waist and pull as hard as I can for him to just consider the possibility. Please know that I say this with the utmost love and respect for my husband. If Nate had a fraction of my love and need for change, there is just no telling where my harebrained schemes would have led us in the past 10 years. I’m about 99.9% sure we would be in a much different place.
Now back to the original intent of this post. Here we are starting again. We have sent in the application, started going to trainings, harassed friends and family for referrals, and I have the longest list of things to do. Currently I would like to show you what I am working on.
My hardest subject ever was geometry. NO joke. Spatial intelligence is in Nate’s top 5 strength categories and my #1 weakness. I have no idea why I thought it would be a good idea for me to take this on. In fact I stopped midway to blog about it. I’m tired.
Stay tuned if you want to hear about more of the foster steps. It’s really fun.