What do you say to someone who is sacrificially selecting what they hope will be a better life for their child. What could I possibly say to make them think that I have a good enough home to raise their biological child. It’s a complete impossibility. You have one 8×10 piece of paper to explain in so many words that you are safe and loving and caring and that you will try your best to make the least amount of mistakes. I can’t even figure out how to get my toddler to stop drinking the bathwater. I mean seriously. Can you imagine the blind faith that these parents have to have in order to entrust an almost stranger with their miraculous gift? We did the best we could so here is our letter…
Thank you so much for allowing us to introduce ourselves! We are the Fritzel’s, family of 3 faithfully awaiting a fourth little member. We have been married for 7 years, but together for over 14. We started dating our senior year in High School and sustained a long distance relationship during college. During our 3rd year of marriage we were presented with the opportunity to move to Monterrey, Mexico for a couple of months. Nate worked and Jackie volunteered at a local orphanage. While we were there we had a Spanish tutor and engulfed ourselves with the Mexican culture. A little more than 2 years later we got pregnant with our son Owen. We had a great pregnancy and Owen is 2 and a half years old now. We are choosing to adopt our 2nd child, not because of infertility, but because we believe adoption to be a wonderful thing that God has given us to support one another. We are a big-hearted family with lots of passions and lots of laughs.
Jackie speaking about Nate:
Nate is my rock, the most loyal person, and an awesome example of a Christian man. He has the corniest jokes and can quote Seinfeld better than anyone. Nate is also a man of many talents; he plays drums, guitar, and bass. I remember all too well spending many nights listening to his band of the moment. He is also an avid golfer and sports enthusiast. Nate graduated from Texas Tech in 2005 and loves those Red Raiders! He has turned Owen into a little sports enthusiast as well. Nate works at his family business with his Dad “the boss”, along with some uncles, cousins, and his brother. They are in the railroad industry so there are quite a few train enthusiasts in the family as well. Due to the family business we live within 15 miles of Nate’s parents, brother, aunts and uncles, along with several cousins, needless to say, we are very close to his family.
Nate speaking about Jackie:
Let me introduce you to my wonderful wife Jackie, she is also a loving stay-at-home mom to our son, Owen. Jackie quit her job as a school social worker in order to be a stay-at-home mom in 2011. She loves reading, volunteering, decorating, and of course, her Oklahoma Sooners where she went to college. She has a bigger heart than anyone I have ever met and would do just about anything to help others. Jackie is close to both her mother and father, along with her brother and sister. We live just miles from her parents and see them weekly. Her faith has been a constant throughout her life and she has taught our son to love the Lord as well. She is a beautiful person inside and out and is my best friend.
Introducing Future Big Brother:
Owen is a happy and fun little 2 and a half year old. He loves playing baseball and basketball, reading books, and listening/dancing to music. His favorite show is Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and also loves the movie Kung Fu Panda. We enjoy playing at the park, swimming at Grandma and Papa’s, football tailgates with Nana and Granddad, concerts, bounce houses, and play dates with friends.
Thanks for taking the time to read our letter. We are hoping that through the open adoption process we can create an extended family relationship with the biological family. We are very close to our extended families and want that for our children too. To us, this process is blending families together that otherwise never would have happened. We are choosing open adoption for those specific reasons and also know how crucial it is for everyone involved to feel connected. We wish you the best and are praying for you and your family.
Hopefully it’s good enough to catch a birthparents’ eyes. I guess we will find out.