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2013
10/29

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Family
Our Adoption

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Fritzel Number 4

Nate, Owen, and I went to the OU/Texas Tech game on Saturday and had a great time minus a little rain, well… I had a great time;) then we got a call that evening that they were showing our birthparent page to a couple who had already had their baby. Owen and I had gone back to my brothers house early from the game so Nate wasn’t back yet, so I figured I would wait to tell him when he got back. About exactly one hour later at 8:20 we got another call saying that we had been selected by the family in Beaumont, Nate walked in 1 min. After I got off the phone. Telling Nate that we were selected to adopt a baby girl was needless to say emotional for me. I could barely get it out without bursting into tears. We at that very moment had to decide when we were leaving for Beaumont. Owen was about to go to sleep and we contemplated just putting him in the car but decided against it. And thank goodness we did because when we “woke” at 6:20 Owen was coughing the bark cough. By the way I put “woke” in quotes because I am sure you can imagine how much we slept knowing that we were about to be united with our soon to be second child. So we put Owen in the car and headed home making lots of phones calls and “googling” the whole way. Thank goodness for smart phones! We learned that Beaumont if a 6 hr drive from home, we got Owen an appt on Sunday morning in Keller at an urgent care for kids, and decided to leave him with Nate’s mom. We were sad to leave O behind but the doctor thought it was best. We ran home pulled out every attic box in order to find newborn clothes, bottles, burp cloths, blankets, car seat, and anything else we could think of and was able to get a load of laundry done. Paula (Nate’s mom) came to get Owen and we packed up the car and headed to the airport. When we landed there were a few problems with getting a rental car (no one rents on Sundays), problems with the hotel (GPS sent us to the wrong one), and the hospital would not let us see the baby until the birth mom got there (she lived in another town). So our social worker picked us up from a farther away hotel then we had originally thought, after a taxi dropped us off. (Thank goodness for those Social Workers;) She took us to the hospital where we were able to meet birth mom and birth gma. We were then able to hold the baby for a couple hours while we got to know the birth family. They are wonderful and we instantly liked them. After having to say goodbye that night we were to meet up at Buckner’s office the following day at 11 to sign the paperwork and take sweet baby home. Unfortunately due to problems with the hospital we didn’t check baby out until about 3:30pm. We had waited all day to see her and were overjoyed when they finally walked her through the doors. We also had a few other hurdles with photo id’s and notary publics so the paperwork finally was signed at about 6:30 pm. We weren’t too upset waiting at this point due to the adorable baby girl we got to hold the whole time. After the paperwork was signed we did the entrustment ceremony and shed many tears together. Baby Girl’s birthparents were there and able to say goodbye (for now). They had named sweet baby girl Hope which seemed very fitting to all of us. Nate picked her first name Baeya, she is beautiful and it also seemed fitting. The birth mom and dad loved the name too. We had to spend another night due to the craziness of last night, so we are on the plane headed home now. Can’t wait to introduce little Baeya to her big brother Owen. I should also say that I am forever greatful to my wonderful father-in-law who flew us down there and experienced all the ups and downs with us along with my mother-in-law,mother, and sister who took good care of big brother Owen anxiously waiting on news the whole time.

So Welcome home Fritzel number 4, we have been faithfully awaiting your arrival;) God is so Good!

Hope: the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.

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2013
10/27

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Family

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New Beginnings

I have a sweet friend who calls herself a “baby Christian”. It’s so funny to me because that is exactly how I feel too. For all intensive purposes I don’t think anyone would call me a “baby Christian”. I have gone to church my whole life. In fact my mother took me and my brother and sister to church 3 times a week growing up. For some reason I don’t think the information absorbed like my mother had hoped, I wasn’t hearing accurate information, or my mind just wasn’t comprehending the way it should. Either way I feel like two years ago I started over. My understanding of Christ’s life, love, and sacrifice had, thankfully, always been there. Which is definitely the most important part, but all the other stuff. Gone. So I started over, learning of the bible and all the amazing things that happened before and after Christ’s life and resurrection. You would think it would be easier for me as an avid reader but it’s not. Don’t get me wrong it’s much easier than when I was in high school but it’s still hard and I still forget a lot. The church we have been going to for the past several years did a great job of reaching out to encourage Nate and I in our “baby times”. We are so greatful for the time we spent there and the friendships we have made. Through those friendships and Lifegroups we met a pastor (who has a way of explaining the bible in just the right way I needed to “get it” and makes me laugh at the same time), his wife (an amazing mother and friend whose authenticity and charm have been a welcomed blessing in my world) and their two kiddos who are the cutest! We believe in them so much that Nate and I have decided to fully support the next chapter in their lives. The Collective, We are so excited about their vision and can’t wait to dig in and help! If you would like to hear more check out www.robcarmackwords.com

2013
10/21

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Uncategorized

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No fun anymore

Nate likes to tell me that I am no fun anymore. It hurts a bit, but I know he’s right. I really don’t love going to concerts anymore, or spending a Saturday watching football, or dressing up for Halloween (oh wait I have NEVER liked the last one). Either way I have been thinking about how I can be more fun. So we decided to go get some costumes and attend a Halloween party at Nate’s work. BTW I also kind of hate Halloween. I am addicted to salt so the candy thing doesn’t do it for me and finding a costume is pretty much the most stressful thing ever. Don’t want to be too cliche’, don’t want to be dressed scantily clad which seems to be the only options at the costume stores for women, don’t want to spend money on renting, and would rather not dress up as an animal. All this being said, I will say it was super easy this year, we barely made any effort, and the costumes turned out decent enough. Owen was batman, we made Nate a robin costume, and I was cat woman. Did I mention that I didn’t actually know about this party until the day before so it was very last minute, to say the least. But, in spite of the last minute costume run, I did have a lot of fun and am thinking I may have to “have fun” more often.

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This has to buy me at least a week of being fun right?

2013
10/14

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Our Adoption

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Officially Awaiting…

Not only did we get our home study done on Friday, but we are officially in the birthparent book! Usually after the home visit the parents make their birthparent letter and scrapbook page. Well our Social Worker asked us to go ahead and get it together. We had it ready when she arrived and she loved it! We had sent her the “rough copies” for approval prior to the visit so she had already kind of seen it. The home study went great; lots of questions about disciplining, a few suggestions of safety improvements for the house, a lot of laughing, and three hours later we are in “the book”. Now the real waiting begins. Prayers are greatly appreciated for the future birthparents of our baby to find us.  We have no idea if it could be tomorrow or two years from now so letting go and continuing to trust God’s plan is on the agenda, along with enjoying some much needed time with family and friends. Thanks to those of you who have been so encouraging and supportive!

I attached our scrapbook pages for the birthparent book below. The page was made by my very talented friend Caroline of http://www.carolinecarmackblog.com/ Caroline is a birth photographer in the North Ft. Worth area, just in case you are looking:)

 

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2013
10/14

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Our Adoption

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A letter to the birthparents

What do you say to someone who is sacrificially selecting what they hope will be a better life for their child. What could I possibly say to make them think that I have a good enough home to raise their biological child. It’s a complete impossibility. You have one 8×10 piece of paper to explain in so many words that you are safe and loving and caring and that you will try your best to make the least amount of mistakes. I can’t even figure out how to get my toddler to stop drinking the bathwater. I mean seriously. Can you imagine the blind faith that these parents have to have in order to entrust an almost stranger with their miraculous gift? We did the best we could so here is our letter…

Dear Birthparents,

Thank you so much for allowing us to introduce ourselves! We are the Fritzel’s, family of 3 faithfully awaiting a fourth little member. We have been married for 7 years, but together for over 14. We started dating our senior year in High School and sustained a long distance relationship during college. During our 3rd year of marriage we were presented with the opportunity to move to Monterrey, Mexico for a couple of months. Nate worked and Jackie volunteered at a local orphanage. While we were there we had a Spanish tutor and engulfed ourselves with the Mexican culture. A little more than 2 years later we got pregnant with our son Owen. We had a great pregnancy and Owen is 2 and a half years old now. We are choosing to adopt our 2nd child, not because of infertility, but because we believe adoption to be a wonderful thing that God has given us to support one another. We are a big-hearted family with lots of passions and lots of laughs.

Jackie speaking about Nate:

Nate is my rock, the most loyal person, and an awesome example of a Christian man. He has the corniest jokes and can quote Seinfeld better than anyone. Nate is also a man of many talents; he plays drums, guitar, and bass. I remember all too well spending many nights listening to his band of the moment. He is also an avid golfer and sports enthusiast. Nate graduated from Texas Tech in 2005 and loves those Red Raiders!  He has turned Owen into a little sports enthusiast as well. Nate works at his family business with his Dad “the boss”, along with some uncles, cousins, and his brother. They are in the railroad industry so there are quite a few train enthusiasts in the family as well. Due to the family business we live within 15 miles of Nate’s parents, brother, aunts and uncles, along with several cousins, needless to say, we are very close to his family.

Nate speaking about Jackie:

Let me introduce you to my wonderful wife Jackie, she is also a loving stay-at-home mom to our son, Owen. Jackie quit her job as a school social worker in order to be a stay-at-home mom in 2011. She loves reading, volunteering, decorating, and of course, her Oklahoma Sooners where she went to college. She has a bigger heart than anyone I have ever met and would do just about anything to help others. Jackie is close to both her mother and father, along with her brother and sister. We live just miles from her parents and see them weekly. Her faith has been a constant throughout her life and she has taught our son to love the Lord as well. She is a beautiful person inside and out and is my best friend.

Introducing Future Big Brother:

Owen is a happy and fun little 2 and a half year old. He loves playing baseball and basketball, reading books, and listening/dancing to music. His favorite show is Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and also loves the movie Kung Fu Panda. We enjoy playing at the park, swimming at Grandma and Papa’s, football tailgates with Nana and Granddad, concerts, bounce houses, and play dates with friends.

Thanks for taking the time to read our letter. We are hoping that through the open adoption process we can create an extended family relationship with the biological family. We are very close to our extended families and want that for our children too. To us, this process is blending families together that otherwise never would have happened. We are choosing open adoption for those specific reasons and also know how crucial it is for everyone involved to feel connected. We wish you the best and are praying for you and your family.

Love,

The Fritzel’s

Hopefully it’s good enough to catch a birthparents’ eyes. I guess we will find out.