Monthly Archives: August 2013

2013
08/22

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Please Don’t Lick That…

lickingI have decided that toddlers are not my strong point. I didn’t get really frustrated when Owen was super angry and crying when he was a baby, I didn’t even mind that I wasn’t getting any sleep the first 6-7 months of Owen’s life when he only would nap/sleep on me. I didn’t even mind the spit up all that much when he had reflux. But toddlerdom is a whole other ball game, that I am not equipped for. I am working on it and my adoption social worker has recommended a book called, The Connected Child. Nate and I are going to an adoption seminar soon that will feature the author of this book, so I hope to learn a lot of great tips from her session/reading the book. I feel like the words out of my mouth are ridiculous. Here are some staples right now…

– Please don’t lick that

-Please don’t drink the bath water

-You need to go to bed

-The bath water is dirty

-Please don’t lick that

-Use your words

-Can you tell me what’s wrong

-Please don’t lick that

-No touching the toilet

-Can you please stop yelling

PLEASE DON’T LICK THAT!

Notice how the majority of these have to do with the bathroom, funny thing is we haven’t technically started potty training yet. Luckily my kid is probably on the easier side, or at least I keep telling myself that. Timeout works well, but it can be tricky in public. Especially when you have to do timeouts in the public bathrooms and your child thinks “nose on the wall” is a literal reference. Lots to learn…Anyone have any great tips for toddlers?

 

Adoption Seminar

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This seminar was what I was looking most forward to in our adoption process. First of all I got to spend two whole days back to back with my best friend. Nate and I always have a good time together and when there is no toddler to pull our attention we get to focus on each other. The conference being in Dallas meant 1 hour and 15 mins in the car each way. Which means PLENTY of time to talk. Now to other people this sounds like a beating (we had to be there from 9-5) but to me it sounded GLORIOUS! My “love language” as I have previously mentioned is quality time, so this was like 5 hours of unavoidable quality time! I don’t think Nate felt the same way, BUT we enjoyed our time together nonetheless.

The other reason why this was so exciting for me is the fact that we would be learning about adoption. I have learned (through age, CIS, and graduate school) something that I never realized about myself…I am a huge nerd when it comes to learning about things that I care about, and ADOPTION is towards the top of that list. On the first day of the seminar we talked about grief and loss. We talked about the losses for the birthparent, the adoptive parent, and the child. It was heartbreaking in some ways. Really thinking about what the child might be “losing out on” by not being raised by their biological parents. I realize in many cases, such as international adoption, it is not possible for the biological parents to be a part of the adoption, but learning about open adoption has really made me aware of the benefits of the birthparents being a part of the child’s life. The losses for the birthparents are pretty simple to point out, and when you really think about them, are too much to even comprehend. I know some people don’t understand why there are losses for the adoptive parents, but a lot of that has to do with infertility and the loss of not carrying that specific child for nine months along with missing out on the birthing process of that child. I am starting to understand why we were led to open adoption when that was not our first choice. I think that Nate and I can love not only the child but the parents that so lovingly picked us for the adoptive parents.
The second day we spoke about the legal risks that go along with adopting in this way. It started to get pretty heavy until they brought in a couple that had adopted a newborn that was now 8 months old. He was such a cute, sweet little boy. As we were blessed to hear their painful and amazing story, we grew pretty tired. We were then able to watch an entrustment ceremony on video from another couple. During an entrustment ceremony the birth parents literally hand the baby to the adoptive parents. It’s beautiful and heart wrenching at the same time. On our way home Nate and I were exhausted so much so that I am just writing this post and its been 4 days since we attended the seminar.

2013
08/12

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Personal

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Nashville

Just got home from the annual girls trip and we yet again had a blast. It is so fun to meet and enjoy all these different cities every year. As I have already informed you in a previous post, Girl’s Trip, I got to pick where we went this year and I chose Nashville. So let me just say for those of you who don’t know, I am not at all a country music fan. I have gone through times in my life when I did enjoy country music but currently choose to NEVER listen to it. So in planning this trip I knew that we would be hearing a lot of country and learning a lot about the history of country music, and I was fine with that. BUT I also thought that because Nashville is just such a music city that we would definitely see other genres too, but i was wrong. Now there were some bands that incorporated a little classic rock, rock, rap, and bluegrass, but these were few and far between. So here is a rundown of the places we went and how great or not so great they all were. We threw out a few adjectives for the places we went and here is what we came up with…

Merchants=AWESOME

Tootsies=Super Fun

Roberts=Fun

Tequila Cowboy=Gross food, terrible music, dirty

The Stage=Best music

Honky Tonk Center=Good times

Nashville Annoyances=Tip Jars, really shorts skirts and shorts

This is what you get from three girls on their way home from a really fun girl’s trip. We did love the Ryman Auditorium Tour, the Grand Ole Opry Tour, the Belle Meade Plantation, the Pancake Pantry, and many other experiences. Overall I would rate Nashville as a great girls getaway, just in case you are in the market. Here are some pics from this years’ adventures.

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2013
08/01

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Family

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San Antonio

San Antonio bound with the family last weekend. We had my older brother, my older sister, their families, our parents, and of course my little fam. We headed down to Austin to stay with my sister and her family for the night, then picked up and headed to San Antonio the next morning. Three cars, eight adults, two kids, two toddlers, one baby, and about a million suitcases.:) I have been visiting San Antonio for as long as I can remember. My family has quite the obsession with the Alamo and Mexican food. I know others think us Texans are crazy for loving our Texas history, but I have to admit, I love it too. We visited the Alamo on Thursday and had some mexican food for lunch.

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Afterwards we took a long stroll on the riverwalk. We checked into the hotel that afternoon with a couple of sleep deprived toddlers who immediately went down for naps. We went to the market after that and enjoyed more Mexican food. Owen and his cousins found a stage that was not being used to run around and dance on.

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The next day we went to Seaworld and enjoyed the shows. Owen really liked the two sesame street shows especially Elmo Rocks. Although he was not a fan of actually meeting any characters. Everyone lasted without too many issues/temper tantrums until around 7:15.  It was then clearly time to leave. We ordered some pizza and ate at the hotel that night. Busy and fun weekend overall. We may need to extend the weekend next year to spread things out a bit. Lesson learned.